Sunday, November 16, 2008
Introducing my Lady, Patti Ann. She whom completes me. She's my best friend. She has seen me at my best and at my worst, and still she loves me. She loves me when I can't or won't.
Why? Hell if I know.
There have been times I didn't want her to love me. Times I knew I didn't deserve this Lady. Times i was hedonistic and times I was...shattered. But she loved me regardless. She healed my broken heart with her broken heart. the heart I broke.
She forgave me though, and continued to love me. Trust eventually returned as well.
That's a complete love. A perfect love that only comes from Spirit and spirit.
Patti knew this one thing throughout our 27 years of marriage; throughout all the good n' bad times, mostly bad and tragic: I would die for her and our children without thinking. The duty of every husband, if it came down to that. Chivalry. Honor.
And yet I dirtied my honor and betrayed my love, our marriage, betrayed myself, and betrayed God.
And still, my love would not stop lovin' me. I didn't deserve a love like this, I thought, countless times. But thankfully, I couldn't stop it.
How wonderful...how perfect. It took me several years to realize, although I already knew, the perfect love of my Patti Ann.
My how we have changed, but our love has endured and continues to grow. Our love has become more pure, and Godly. We understand each other (most the time) without even talking.
Thank you, Patti Ann.
Patti is the best Mother and Wife I ever knew. So many times my eyes have watered up as I saw this Beautiful Lady love our children. And they knew they were loved by Mom. They could always trust Mom. And as teenagers they knew they couldn't fool Mom, ha ha!
Guys, there here are a few things I have learned:
There are times your girl just wants you to listen...and she doesn't want solutions.
There are times she just wants you to hold her, and protect her with your undivided attention.
There are times she won't make any sense at all. Smile and accept it.
There are tmes she wants romance. Remember to tell her she's beautiful, often.
Tell her why you love her. Show your love; do the dishes and sweep the floor without bein' asked.
Never stop bein' a man. She may be angry at times but she wants you to be a man.
A strong, honorable, chivalrous man. A man that can say no, but a man who does so outta love.
Be a man she can be proud of. A mans man. Tough n' cool, and not a wimpy fool.
Manly leadership. That's an awesome responsibility, guys. Don't let your Love down.
Don't forget to serve n' protect her. 'Cause if you can't serve you can't lead.
A human man, as God meant. Yea, a Godly man. That's what wives want.
Aye! I would die for you my Love, and I gno she would die for me. We understood that from the beginning. Now we're fillin' in the blanks, so to speak. It's a challenge to be sure, but I can't think of anyone else I would rather be with as we continue to conquer that which isn't love n' truth with Love n' Truth between each other.
How is your love perfect? Some may ask. If you don't know you ain't been listenin' to me.
Here's a hint: my love ain't perfect. Patti's love ain't perfect. But our love is perfect.
As Robin so beautifully says:
my love ain't perfect
and my love's love ain't perfect
but our love - perfect
Ho! Perfect! We have a blessed marriage, thanks be to God! It doesn't get any better than that. Truly, I'm the luckiest and most blessed man alive. :^)